So How's your SL relationship?

"Are we really happy with this lonely game we play,
Looking for the right words to say?
Searching but not finding -- understanding anyway,
We're lost in this masquerade."

- Leon Russell, This Masquarade


REALITY CHECK!

I have been saying in here, in SL, constantly, that one should NOT try to substitute their RL with SL.

You just can't have a fabulous relationship that last long and forever with pixel avatar. If you are lacking something in RL, you just can't magically make up everything else in SL. Well, except for very few things such as shapely ass or mansion on the beach.

Again and again, astounding numbers of adults just can't keep themselves from having UNREALISTIC expectation of perfect relationship in SL, and believing that it can also be perfect and lasting relationship in RL.


PEOPLE, I know its a Christmas time, but, THERE ARE NO SANTA! lol

Your seemingly sweet, perfectly handsome dude with bad attitude cannot be some perfect, intelligent, responsible cute boytoy in RL. (Believe me. I know what's a cute boy toy can do. They have its use, but not for relationship, let alone *life together*? FORGET IT. lol)

I sometime spend my money on cute little things. They amuse me. They think they can charm me. The fact that they believe they can charm me amuse me a lot. Its an innocent game. They know what they can expect from me, and I do not have stupid illusions about them, either.

Many people says that SL is not a game. But I beg to defer, and time and again, I proved i'm right.

You just CANNOT mix SL and expect them to become that dream come true. You just do not wake up in the next morning, having this shapely ass you have in SL . LOL
But then, you plan all kinds of shit for RL, the dude you are screwing in SL, is now screwing your Whole RL... if you have one.

Ok, that happens a lot. They deserve it right. Right.

The thing is... Aftermath of this perpetual drama of *SL, mistaken it with RL, then got screwed in RL* spilled over back in SL.


"Oh I met this dude, he was fabulous, he is so sweet and handsome, I'm moving in with him in Spring."
Packing up things, bundle up their daughters/sons.
The dude is divorced, or *in process of * divorce. (Yea ALWAYS. thats what they say.)

snorts. over and over and over

Gave him money, but he screw me and left me.
I overdose my meds.
I slit my wrist, but doctor said put bandaid on them. (snorts)

My prediction.

(sniffles) " I was mistakedn. He screwed me and please help me picking up my pieces. I am so depressed and I need all my friends with me. ... ... ..."


NO. We are not your friends. You think you can get back into the drama queen routine that easily, so people can wipe your snot with our own tissues?

HELL NO.

By the way, if you want to learn how to play those love games with cute bad boys who never ties their long hair in bed?
I teach you how to do it correctly, how to do it right.

1.Spend money on them. Never *lend* them money.
2.Make yourselves available all the time, so you will be there when they need you.
3.Never make yourselves available, so you will not be looking like desperate woman.
4.Call them when they need you.
5.Do not call them when you need them.
6.Treat them with something their lovers/girlfriends can't afford, like convertible car or Harley davidson, make it look like effortless. And never bring it up to remind them about it again.
7. Never ask them where they have been.
8.Do not call them just to ask them "how they are".
9. Always available for sex. but do not let them know you are, and know how to seduce them at least expected places.








Oh, wait. This is not the advise for bedroom games.

These are tips for successful marriage. LMAO


By the way. Are you still going to see your SL partner in RL?

Season's Greetings from Fred

I'm suffering from unlikely wet weather of California. So is my Steinway. 94% humidity is like Japanese weather. Humidity in the air makes the sound so sweet and resonates better, but the piano itself is so used to relative dry environment, of low 20's at the most... now the wood is absorbing the humid air rapidly and expanding, resulting in squeaky keys and funky tuning. IT does not help that my piano tech is already scheduled to come in on 17th. because in two days, I doubt that the humidity in our home will settled back to the normal winter average. arrrrgh.

We can use some humor. Me, in stripper outfit. Too bad, I cannot demonstrate the *ripoff feature* of this fur.

Outfit and hair cost me nearly 4$, with spending hours trying to capture the right moment of these dance moves... (*laughs... more like enjoying watching myself grind and thrust.) The result is this.

I used restraints not to make this a prim book with 12 pages of my nearly naked pictures. I commend myself of settling with only two shot. (PSD. files have nearly ten layers... lol) drool and admire as much as you like.

Men fear me, women cant handle me...

LMFAOOOOOOOO

Come on, I'm not lying. THis is exactly what I saw. I couldnt stop laughing for like 93minutes.

I saw this actual floating title on some typical *shoulder width 100* av with biker outfit. LMAO THis dude must be some skinny ass, pasty white little dude living in middle of nowhere in the basement of his mom's house. LMAOOOOO

Seriously. I almost grilled him with motorcycle technical questions. (I am evil like that as you know. It is so easy for me to figure out fakes. )

Maybe this dude thinks men really fear him if they saw that title, but he has no FUCKING clue that this title only draws out nothing but laughter.

His av was even wearing badly homemade H-D head wrap prims which his hair from calico creation was sticking out left and right. LOL

Oh my god, that was not all. His profile says *I ride alone under the name of four horsemen*....
ROFLMFAOOOOOOOO
Ok so he doesnt ride alone, then. LMAO Four horsemen has three other dude.

The way he puts the four horsemen, it definitely not from bible but from Highlander the series. (The TV one. not the movies. TV series had a few episodes that involved Four horsemen, which was popular episodes among highlander geeks. Yes, I have all the DVD. )

So he thinks *men fear him and women cant' handle him* while he watches highlander the series on video tape, imagine he is the apocalypse.... PLEASE. Some fantasy just has to stay private. LOL

Once in a while, i get a good laugh out on the expense of these idiots, who thinks they are cool as hell. LMAo

I could have so start the brawl with this dude, but I didn't. If anyone interested in finding this dude, go to the place in SL where rhymes with Sturgis.

I'm just pissed.

You know I mock people who can't get a grip on their pixel life.

When I see those entry about "Behind this av, there is a real person with real feelings..." I instantly think that they do not belong in here. If you have to advertise that you have to be babied, cuddled, nurtured, cared... just Use the X button on top of your browser.
I do not have time for babysitting grown adults in MY free time.

That is why i do not like alcoholics, drug users who has weathers depends on if they are on meds or under the influence (prescription or illegal, doesn't matter)

Why do you want to drag your pathetic real life everywhere you go, even when you dont have to? ie: second life

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Now, why i pissed?

Those psychos, alcohol/drug addicts, liars, thieves, untruthful backstabbers who uses so called *friends* to get ahead, to whiners, immature adults who acts like 14 year old girls, stalkers who hid behind their alts to harass others etc etc ---They take away my friends from me.

See? all my friends are mature adults with common sense. So they know how to use the X button on top their browser. It means that they just walk away from SL at any time.
I respect them enough not to stand in their way, however, I also value them enough to spend my time, helping them solve their problem if they trust me enough.



Personally those dramas really don't affect my real life/feeling, just because I am too forgiving and generous for my own good. I may criticize them in sharp tongue or shoving the brutal truth in their face, but that is just about it. I do not harbor any feeling towards them. (call it a wisdom. )

I have this curse of seeing the person's character pretty much the first time I speak to them, so if I sense something fake about the character, I do not let them inside until I establish the trust on them. And yes, it may take a year. I constantly evaluate their characters.
Sure enough, sooner or later, I will see their true colors, validating my gut instinct of *something is off about this character*. Sometimes the incident does not involve me directly, but all the same, serious enough to sever them. As many of the SL says "If you fuck with my family ~" I do not threaten people, I do not kill them nor grief them, i just cut them off.

To this day, I only met two people in RL from SL, and they are my real best friends as well. Few more, that I feel I can make exception of getting to know them in rl. Only the handful are allowed to contact me in the means other than SL IM.
I do not invite any of my rl friends to join SL, except they joined on their own. (In that case, by all means I freind them of course, but I do not claim responsibility)

The objective is to keep my freetime as enjoyable as possible.

Isn't that the purpose of second life?

So I'm pissed that all those stupid people give my friend some emotional stress that is so great that she is ready to walk away without talking to me, out of respect she has for me. She was just ready to press the X button.
I told her to block everyone except the ones she can trust, cut the cards of the rest, mute them if they make a scene. Why should she concern about the feeling of those people who are so selfish? She shouldn't.


I'm pissed, but the thing is, I can't go after any of them.