secret lover is the key to your happiness

You know there is a such person as *husband material* or *boyfriend material*... Those, easy to define. Everyone would agree for the most part.

honesty? goodness? caring and sweet?

Of course, it is boring. Generalized character cannot be exciting. And then comes the *irreconcilable differences* and all that. The ugly but common break up drama follows...

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So why are they looking for husband/boyfriend, and only to be disappointed?
Beats me.

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However, finding a great lover takes much more than your own likings and taste.
He has all the quality to be a husband or boyfriend, but he has to be comfortable in his own skin so he would not be jealous of your *other mate* or your friends.
He does not require stupid attention like a little boy.
He knows when to let you be alone.
He is able to take on the role of a great buddy or good brother.
He can make your ugliest friend feel like the most beautiful woman in the room.
He keeps his own secret, but he would never reveal to you for your own good.
And you can absolutely trust him.

He is not predictable.
He would not say *I love you* just because it is the right thing to say.


You have to have tremendous self esteem and vivacious character to keep such man interested in you. He is used to be around beautiful women but that means nothing to him.

He is not just a punk in the streets.You imagine that he can be dangerous, if need to be. You would probably never know, because he seems to know how to control every situation.
In fact, he knows how to let you control when it calls for.
He never overstep you.

He would never tried to earn your points by showing off his effort. He makes everything looks too easy.

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And when you need to leave him for good, he would smile...

"... come see me again?"

then just let you go.

For the first time and the last, you realize he loved you.